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evildoom_bunny (and by extension a friend of mine) was beaten up by her "boyfriend" last night.
(She's probably going to read this one day, she's on here somewhere - so - hope you're ok!)
The worst part is I'm not in the slightest bit surprised.evildoom_bunny has been telling me stories for months about how this bastard has been treating her. And I said, over and over, why is she still with this guy? Aggressive control freaks like this don't change, they just get worse and worse. And one day, she is going to get hurt.
Unfortunately, I was right.
A few months back I was seriously suggesting we go rescue her - they share a place. We'd take a whole team, me, her parents,evildoom_bunny and her mother - lots of Witnesses, lots of helping hands - and pile all her stuff into a couple of cars and take her somewhere safe, somewhere he was unlikely to find her. She wasn't interested in leaving, and told everyone she could work this out...
*sigh*
Why do guys do this sort of thing? It's so predictable as to be a cliche these days. And gives us all a bad name. By "us" I mean men. Makes me really angry that this sort of crap is still going on, that macho men learn this behavior from somewhere. I've come across men who are the same, from an older age bracket, and it's creepy just being around them. Hard to look them in they eye.
Conversely, why do women put up with this crap? Get out NOW, that's my advice, your man is only going to get worse, and some miraculous transformation into a nice guy is never ever going to happen. The best thing you can do is leave. There are nice men out there, somewhere.
The father of an ex of mine used to beat up her mother at irregular intervals. I remember them both coming to visit us a few days after one incident, and I had to talk to this guy, and play along with the game that "nothing was wrong". Never doing that again - next time I'm saying something...
Anyway, she's off to talk to the Police today. Hopefully get him charged with assault, and while they're there, get an intervention order. These things work, people are sent to jail if the violate them. Look what happened to Gary Neiwand, the cyclist. I can also tell you other "success" stories.
Hang in there girl!
evildoom_bunny (and by extension a friend of mine) was beaten up by her "boyfriend" last night.(She's probably going to read this one day, she's on here somewhere - so - hope you're ok!)
The worst part is I'm not in the slightest bit surprised.
evildoom_bunny has been telling me stories for months about how this bastard has been treating her. And I said, over and over, why is she still with this guy? Aggressive control freaks like this don't change, they just get worse and worse. And one day, she is going to get hurt. Unfortunately, I was right.
A few months back I was seriously suggesting we go rescue her - they share a place. We'd take a whole team, me, her parents,
evildoom_bunny and her mother - lots of Witnesses, lots of helping hands - and pile all her stuff into a couple of cars and take her somewhere safe, somewhere he was unlikely to find her. She wasn't interested in leaving, and told everyone she could work this out...*sigh*
Why do guys do this sort of thing? It's so predictable as to be a cliche these days. And gives us all a bad name. By "us" I mean men. Makes me really angry that this sort of crap is still going on, that macho men learn this behavior from somewhere. I've come across men who are the same, from an older age bracket, and it's creepy just being around them. Hard to look them in they eye.
Conversely, why do women put up with this crap? Get out NOW, that's my advice, your man is only going to get worse, and some miraculous transformation into a nice guy is never ever going to happen. The best thing you can do is leave. There are nice men out there, somewhere.
The father of an ex of mine used to beat up her mother at irregular intervals. I remember them both coming to visit us a few days after one incident, and I had to talk to this guy, and play along with the game that "nothing was wrong". Never doing that again - next time I'm saying something...
Anyway, she's off to talk to the Police today. Hopefully get him charged with assault, and while they're there, get an intervention order. These things work, people are sent to jail if the violate them. Look what happened to Gary Neiwand, the cyclist. I can also tell you other "success" stories.
Hang in there girl!
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Date: 2006-09-08 01:54 am (UTC)I don't get it either.
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Date: 2006-09-08 02:41 am (UTC)not that this has ever happened to me though
so in the personal experience stakes i rate quite low
but in this day and age theres nothing to stop someone from speaking out and seeking justice from scum who treat women like punching bags
it is never ok for someone to hit you
and lets not forget that its not just men who abuse. there are plenty of girls out there who abuse their boyfriends so its not the gender thats to blame. Its the individuals
what people need to realise is that in a physically abusive relationship is that their partner only has a much power over them as what they let them have
and a way of shifting this power balance in their favour is to get out, get safe & press charges/get an intervention order
otherwise the only other way out is the time that they keep hitting until you stop moving and by then its too late